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Good morning.
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I know it's been a long time since I've done one of these and I will be honest,
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it's mostly because I haven't been feeling well.
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I have a bit of a chronic illness and chronic pain and I took the time to focus on my health.
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But now I'm back and I hope to commit to posting regularly and publishing a
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blogs and audio blogs once again.
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I have a lot of exciting things coming up, a lot of exciting offers, and I can't wait to share with you.
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But for now, I'll just get into what I have to share.
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So
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One of the things that I used to do when I very,
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very first started out doing blogs was I used to write a lot about...
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you know,
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sensory,
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you know,
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kids and sensory information and how it tied into,
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sometimes it tied into astrology,
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sometimes it tied into seasonal,
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sometimes it tied into,
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you know,
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empathic information.
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And
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I kind of went away from that a little while.
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And a lot of that was because when I was becoming trauma-informed,
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when I was going through my studies as a trauma-informed practitioner,
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I felt like it wasn't helpful to share these things.
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And now that I have this approach, this very broad approach to trauma-informed care and spirituality,
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I feel confident that, one, that there's a place for both of these things in the same place.
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They're both relevant.
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They're both important.
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And honestly, you can't have one without the other and you shouldn't.
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So it kind of brought me back here in a really cool way.
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And I am excited and I am ready to...
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I'm ready to evolve and I'm ready to open this information up to those who need it
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and want it and align with that philosophy of,
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yeah,
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the trauma-informed care and the recognition of
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the very real way that stress shapes our nervous system,
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both as parents and as families and as children.
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And the spiritual component of those of us who seek solace and seek refuge in the stars and
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There's room for both.
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I really believe that.
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I really believe there's room for both.
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So I'm taking this full moon now as an opportunity to share some of the things that
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are coming up for me and things that I felt compelled to share.
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And the first thing today that I wanted to share was...
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was the full moon vibes for, especially for kids.
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But I, you know, I want to share for parents too.
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And yeah,
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you'll hear any,
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even law enforcement and nurses,
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nurses especially,
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but anyone,
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you may not believe in astrology,
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but anyone in a first responder position likely watches the moon cycles.
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Why?
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Because they know people are deeply influenced under the full moon.
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They know that it changes the way that people
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behave or it accelerates behavior or it makes things more visible.
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You know, there's a reason.
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There's a reason that there's lore around werewolves in the full moon.
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And so a very long time ago, I wrote this article about kids under the full moon.
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And it went very viral.
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It went internationally viral.
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And it was all about how you might notice behavior changes under the full moon and
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how to howl with your children under the full moon,
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right?
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They're reminding us.
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They remind us that we got to let go of this idea of perfection and hustle and sit
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with the discomfort,
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sit with the messy.
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And that came back today.
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And it very well could have been the same time of year.
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I'm not too sure.
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I've written so many articles that I can't remember.
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But the core of this is these full moon vibes.
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I noticed it this morning when my one child went into meltdown mode.
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It's the first time I've seen him have a meltdown in a very, very long time.
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You know, since he was...
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preschooler maybe and this meltdown seemed like it was over something relatively
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innocuous meaning it was an assignment that was due for school and he had to
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collect these materials and this sent him down a stress meltdown spiral now from
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the outside as a parent I at first in my mind I was like this isn't that big of a
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deal and
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What's the big deal?
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I don't understand.
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I don't understand why you're so stressed out about this.
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Let's just get the materials and send them into school and be on our way.
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But then when I took a minute to step outside of my own interpretation of this,
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And remember how easily I get stressed out over mundane things like bills,
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like life,
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like assignments that are due for work that I don't want to do.
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And this is totally valid.
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His response is totally valid, right?
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And his response, his feelings matter.
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And I stopped.
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I stopped in the middle of my own, you know, like, well, what's the big deal?
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Just go get a bag and who cares?
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And I was like, wanted to be on my way.
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I wanted to be done with the discomfort of this meltdown.
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And I stopped myself and I just gave him a huge hug.
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And I said, man, I see you're stressed.
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I see you're stressed.
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I completely understand why you're stressed out.
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And he hugged me back and he was like, thank you.
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I really am stressed out.
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And I was like, okay, let me know how I can help.
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I'm here to help, okay?
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So sensitivity is an all-time high right now.
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And what do I mean by that, right?
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Sensitivity is not like,
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being wounded emotionally easy or oh you're too sensitive you overthink right i
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mean in the literal sense right um kids that are sensory seekers or sensory
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avoiders the input and the output is so overwhelming right now the sensory
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information is
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It could be like a breeze blowing over the skin the wrong way and it hurts, right?
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The stimulus or the stimuli, the external stimuli is overwhelming right now.
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And they may need to kick, scream, cry, and yell at the sky.
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And that's completely valid.
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We have to remind them that this is valid.
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Hug them.
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Remind them it's okay to cry and still be a badass, right?
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And by the way, age appropriate.
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Don't tell your child.
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Or maybe, I don't know.
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Maybe you're the type of parent that would tell your child that they're a badass.
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I'm not sure.
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But, you know, remind them.
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Remind them.
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It's okay to cry.
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And then, you know, then quote unquote toughen up, right?
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But this isn't really a time for toughening up.
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You can't, right?
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When your skin is sensitive and all the wounds are exposed and all of the hurt is exposed, right?
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And it's time to recognize that.
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It's time to recognize the stress of childhood and the stress of what our kids are
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carrying and how they feel the stress of the world around them and how they
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interpret that.
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You might also notice that the executive functioning of basic tasks is falling off a cliff's edge.
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And we have to remember to simplify things.
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We might have to help them with very basic tasks.
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You might have to help your teenager remember to brush his teeth or eat.
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I had to remind my teenager to eat today.
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He forgot to eat breakfast, right?
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The system is stressed.
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It's overwhelmed.
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It's bogged down.
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And all three of my kids,
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all three of my kids,
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I got a call from my son's phone on the school bus,
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right?
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I just wanted to call to see whose phone this is because he left it behind.
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Different kid, right?
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Executive functioning fell off.
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He forgot to put his phone in his backpack, right?
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So forgetfulness isn't...
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Oftentimes forgetfulness is interpreted as...
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Something like laziness or a not responsible kid.
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And that's not true, right?
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And I know this especially in my kids because it's not like them, right?
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Their executive function is pretty, pretty well maintained, pretty organized for the most part.
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And the fact that all three of them in each of their own way had an executive
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functioning moment drop off today completely.
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tells me that this isn't just a coincidence.
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There's something more to be looked at.
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The system is stressed.
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Their systems are stretched and stressed and it's time to unwind things.
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Maybe skip that practice.
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Don't push them.
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Remind them and yourself it's okay to be imperfect because now is not the time to
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place shame or blame for leaving things behind or forgetting homework or not
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performing well on tests.
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There's too much going on.
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There's too much going on in the world that they are interpreting their own way.
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and this is not only is it okay but it's normal this is actually like completely
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normal and we tend to worry as parents that our children's behavior means that we
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are doing something wrong and I want to gently remind you mom and dad that you are
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not doing anything wrong and maybe maybe this is the time maybe this is the time
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that
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It's like you get back to those basic things.
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Cook someone's favorite meal.
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Cook the family's favorite meal.
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Sit together.
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Watch a movie together.
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Just do the things that feel good right now that promote family togetherness.
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Remind your children you're in this with them.
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Remind them that you are a part of their team and that you're going to help them.
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They forget, right?
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And we forget.
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Because it seems so obvious.
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And this is the most important thing because it's imperative that they remember.
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And it seems so obvious to us.
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Of course I'm on their team.
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Of course I want them to succeed and thrive.
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And I just want to make sure that we're getting and going and going and going.
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And what they really need right now is just a nice big hug.
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Watch them melt.
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Watch them melt into you.
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Maybe all the things that they've been carrying or they say they're okay.
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And maybe they're not.
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Right?
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Right?
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And the outside world puts so much pressure on us to keep going beyond our limits.
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And right now,
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tuning into your kids,
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sitting in the messy,
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that is,
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you know,
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we'd like to think that's not productive,
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but it is.
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Probably the most productive thing that you can do is remind your kids that they're human.
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That it's messy sometimes, that the world is messy right now.
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It doesn't have to be perfect.
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It can't be.
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Remind your kid that.
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Remind your kid it's okay to not be perfect.
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Especially today and through the weekend.
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Honestly, every day.
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But today specifically.
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So best of luck.
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Best of wishes.
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I love you guys.
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Take it easy on yourselves and your kids.
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You got this.
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I believe in you.
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I love you.
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